Modesty and God |
| By Luiz Solimeo |
| November 16, 2010 |
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| What was once seen as underwear is now fashion! Why? |
“I love vulgarity. Good taste is death, vulgarity is life." Mary Quant talks to Alison Adburgham, Tuesday, October 10, 1967, http://century.guardian.co.uk/1960-1969/Story/0,6051,106475,00.html. These words by English fashion designer Mary Quant, who took credit for inventing the miniskirt and hot pantsCf., http://www.spiritus-temporis.com/mary-quant/, reveal one of the most important, though rarely pointed out, aspects of the “fashion revolution” that started in the sixties: vulgarity.
Indeed, fashions have increasingly tended toward vulgarity.
Vulgarity not only tramples upon good taste and decorum but reflects a mentality opposed to all order and discipline and to every kind of restraint, be it esthetic, moral or social, and which ultimately suggests a completely “liberated” standard of behavior.
Are Comfort and Practicality Supreme Criteria?
The rationale for introducing ever shorter skirts was “to be practical and liberating, allowing women the ability to run for a bus.” The notion that comfort, practicality and freedom of movement must be the only criteria for dress has led to a breakdown in the general standard of sobriety and elegance, not to speak of the norms of modesty.
Thus, casual dress, being more comfortable and practical, increasingly becomes the norm regardless of people’s sex, age and circumstances. Jeans and the T-shirt (formerly a piece of underwear) became part of common attire.
Though one can wear less formal clothes at times of leisure, these clothes should not convey the impression that one is abandoning one’s dignity and seriousness. They should not give the idea that one is actually on vacation from one's principles.
In the past, even leisure dress, though more comfortable, maintained the dignity that one should never abandon.
It is curious to note that many companies require employees to wear business suits to convey an image of seriousness and responsibility. This is proof that clothes do transmit a message. They can express seriousness and responsibility or on the other hand, immaturity and a carelessness.
Unisex Garb
The premise that comfort and practicality must preside over the choice of clothes had yet another consequence: clothes no longer reflect one's identity. In other words, they no longer indicate a person’s social position, profession, or even more fundamental characteristics such as sex and age.
Thus, unisex garb has become widespread: jeans and shorts have come to be worn by people of both sexes and all generations. Young men and women, the youth and the aged, single and married, teachers and students, children and adults, all mix together and wear one and the same clothing which no longer expresses that which they are, think or desire.
The Habit Does Not Make the Monk but Identifies Him
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| Saint Therese of Lisieux, a model of modesty. |
True, the habit does not make the monk. Nevertheless, it is a strong element that identifies him. Furthermore, it influences not only the way people look at the monk but the way he looks at himself. No one will deny that the loss of identity by many nuns and monks that took place over the last forty years was largely due to their shedding the traditional habits, which adequately expressed the spirit of poverty, chastity and obedience, as well as an ascetic lifestyle proper to consecrated persons.Fortunately, for some time now there has been a wholesome reaction against the abandonment of the traditional habit, a fact that has brought an increase in the number of vocations. According to a recently published book, “communities of sisters whose members wear an identifiable religious habit” are the most flourishing and attract young women the most. (Book says young women attracted to orders whose members wear habits, CNS, http://www.catholicnews.com/data/briefs/cns/20090526.htm
The Need for Coherence Between Dress and Convictions
Given the unity that exists in our tendencies, principles, convictions and behavior, the way we dress cannot fail to influence our mentality.
Wearing a certain type of clothing constitutes a form of behavior; and when clothing no longer adequately reflect our tendencies, principles and convictions, one’s mentality begins to undergo an imperceptible change to remain ‘in sync’ with the way one presents oneself. This is because human reason, by the force of logic inherent in it, naturally seeks to establish consistency between thought and behavior.
This rule is magnificently summed up in the famous phrase of French writer Paul Bourget: "One must live as one thinks, under pain of sooner or later ending up thinking as one has lived."Cf. Plinio Corrêa de Oliveira, Revolution and Counter-Revolution, http://www.tfp.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=691&Itemid=107
The process of transformation or erosion of principles can be slowed down or impeded by a person’s religious fervor, deeply rooted tendencies or ideas, and other factors. However, if inconsistency between behavior - reflected in the way one dresses - and one’s principles and convictions is not eliminated, the process of erosion, no matter how slow, becomes inexorable.
Living Faith, Inadequate Clothing
This subtle erosion is often manifested by a loss of sensitivity regarding the fundamental points of one’s mentality. One example would be the respect one must have for the sacred.
In some way, concessions to the principle that comfort must be the only rule of dress have ended up by giving a casual note to more serious and holy activities. How can one explain, for example, that persons who have true faith in the Real Presence of Our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament, and who make admirable sacrifices to frequent perpetual adoration, nevertheless see no contradiction in presenting themselves before the Blessed Sacrament wearing shorts as if they were on a picnic?
The same person who shows up thus dressed for perpetual adoration would never don those clothes for an audience, say, with Queen Elizabeth II. This contradiction shows how, though the person has maintained his faith, to a certain degree the notion of the majesty of the Sacrament of the Altar -- the Real Presence -- has vanished from his soul.
Egalitarianism...
There is a general tendency in our times to establish a most radical egalitarianism at all levels of culture and social relations between the sexes, and even, in the tendency of egalitarianianism, between men and animals.
In dress, this egalitarianism is manifested by the growing proletarianization, the establishment of unisex fashions and the abolition of differences between generations. The same garb can be worn by anybody no matter his position, age or circumstance (e.g. in a trip, a religious or civil ceremony).
Chaos reigns in the domains of fashion today. It is often difficult to distinguish, by their clothes, men from women, parents from children, a religious ceremony from a picnic. Haircuts and hairstyles follow the same tendency to confound age and sex and to break down standards of elegance and good taste.
...That Leads to Infantilization
One of the aspects that stand out the most in the modern dictates of fashion is the desire to create an illusion of eternal youth, even perpetual adolescence with no responsibility, a phenomenon that has been called the “Peter Pan Syndrome."Cf. Dr. Dan Kiley, The Peter Pan Syndrome - Men Who Have Never Grown Up, Dodd, Mead & Company, New York, 1983
Modern fashion shows a tendency to infantilize people. A Brazilian fashion critic thus expressed herself: “For a long time now, we have seen on catwalks, both international and domestic, fashions that should be displayed at the Children’s Expo, such is the level of infantilization they suggest. Stylists over 25 years old were designing (and wearing) clothes that could be worn by children in a day care center.”Gloria Kalil, Os kidults e a moda Alô Chics! http://chic.ig.com.br/site/secao.php?secao_id=1&materia_id=867
Modesty is Essential to Chastity
In addition to the extravagant, egalitarian and infantilizing tendency of modern fashion, one needs to consider the attack on virtue and the complete lack of modesty.
The human body has its beauty, and this beauty attracts us. Due to the disorder which Original Sin left in man, the disorder of concupiscence, the delight in contemplating bodily beauty, and particularly of the feminine body can lead to temptation and sin.
That is not to say that some parts of the body are good and can be shown and others are bad and must be covered. Such a statement is absurd and was never part of Church doctrine. All parts of the body are good, for the body is good as a whole, having been created by God. However, not all body parts are equal, and some excite the sexual appetite more than others. Thus, exposing those parts through semi-nudity or risqué low cut dresses or wearing clothes so tight as to accentuate one’s anatomy poses a grave risk of causing excitation, particularly in men in relation to women.
Therefore, clothes must cover that which must be covered and make stand out that which can be emphasized. To cover a woman’s face, like Muslims do, shows well the lack of equilibrium of a religion that does not understand true human dignity. The face, the noblest part of the body because it more perfectly reflects the spiritual soul, is precisely the part that stands out the most in the traditional habits of nuns.
Just as masculine clothes should emphasize the manly aspect proper to man, feminine fashion should manifest grace and delicacy. And in this sense, having longer hair is a natural adornment to frame a woman’s face.
Immorality in Fashions and Destruction of the Family
Garb that does not show a person’s self-respect as an intelligent and free being (and, through baptism, as a son or daughter of God and a temple of the Holy Ghost), contributes to a large extent to the present destruction of the family. It does this by favoring temptations against purity. It also does this by its vulgarity and childishness that corrodes the notion of the seriousness of life and the need for ascesis (self-discipline), all of which are fundamental elements that maintain family cohesion and stability.
The struggle for the restoration of the family by opposing abortion, contraception, and homosexuality will be much more effective if done together with efforts to restore sobriety, modesty and elegance in dress.
Dress and the Love of God
The role of clothing is not only to protect the body from the elements but also to serve as adornment and symbolize someone’s functions, characteristics and mentality. Garb must be not only dignified and decent but also as beautiful and elegant as possible (which requires more good taste than money).
If the “way of beauty” leads us to God by seeing Him as the exemplary cause of Creation, the “way of ugliness” turns us away from the Creator and places us on the slippery slope of sin. That is why ugliness is the very symbol of sin and is so well expressed by the expression “ugly as sin.”
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Comments
In my RCIA class we had three women who thought head coverings in church were a pretty good idea, and I notice that it's the very old, and the young, that tend to show up in scarves or hats...
Of course, for those of us who grew up after the 60s, it has been very hard to develop a concept of "modest" dress that isn't also ugly, because we didn't have as many good examples. I am often discouraged from wearing long skirts, for example, from people I would most expect to *encourage* such modest clothing.
Also, if we as Catholics ignore modesty in dress we are also caving to the subtle notion that respect for the sacredness of the human body is irrelevant... a direct extrapolation of Humanism and how is that philosophy working?
To me, anything much more than that is too much trouble, impractical, and likely uncomfortable, so I see no reason to go that route. Keeping my wardrobe simple is, to me, a matter of using my assets wisely and not getting caught up in worldly 'fashion'.
I once heard someone refer to little girls dressed this way as "prostitutes." I don't think I can sum the problem up more concisely than that did.
Clothes inspire not only self-respect, but respect from other people. That's why royalty wear fancy, expensive clothes. Obviously there is no moral obligation to be either fancy or expensive -- on the contrary, we should maintain a certain spirit of detachment -- but the point is about the psychology. We humans tend to believe what people say about themselves, including what they say by their dress and behaviour. I display a profound inconsistency if I wear a decollete and then complain about men that "I have a face, too, you know."
Saved by the blood of the Lamb ~ naw
Lawkadaisy, Lea, who thinks TFP is advocating mini skirts?
Seriously, though, you have a good point (and I suspect a sense of humour as well...). Sure, in some situations (like looking after livestock -- I speak from farm experience!) pants are the only practical and modest thing anyway. That doesn't mean we can't accept skirts on principle, and even be ready to go to a little inconvenience. There are exceptions to every rule.
I'm a mom of a teen and Confirmation teacher. I'm curious. What made you change your attire? Glad you saw your worth as God's child. And not eye candy used for tempting young men.
And, I refuse to read a book written by a person whose name translates to "girl". Perhaps TFP should write an article about Christan names.
Where on earth did you come from? Your comments are not very Christian and you are not even addressing the real issue. I think you need a bit more humanity in your response.
And not listening to her ideas because her parents picked a stupid name? Seriously?! Anyway, FYI, there are 2 Sts. Colleen, one on March 3rd and one on July 8th.
All angels and saints of God
Wonderful article!
other excellent references --
On Christian Modesty at the Douay-Rheims bible online website.
http://www.drbo.org/modesty.htm
Wear Your Mantilla With Pride
http://latinmas.s701.sureserver.com/wearmantilla.htm
Also note that most (if not all) women who enter abortion clinics are dressed in extremely tight jeans or leggings and other forms of immodest clothing. Based one one's observations, not one woman who enters an abortion clinic is wearing a long dress or skirt. Coincidental connection between fashion and modesty, fashion and life?
If we take care of the little things, the big things tend to take care of themselves, yes?
God Bless!
Parents, teachers and priests have a moral obligation to tell people when their dress does not fit the occasion.
I now dress modestly at all times, and I am in debted to the good priests of the SSPX who have the guts to say exactly what is at stake for souls who do not.
I'm a convert to the Catholic Faith and I hate to wear dresses! They're very uncomfortable to me and, being short built, they make me look fatter than I am. Why is caring about how you look, ugly? Jesus added, "Love thy neighbor as thyself". So if you think you are being holy by the way you dress and then judge another for the way they dress, doesn't one cancel out the other? If people thought more on how to love thy neighbor instead of judging others this world would be a happier place..
"It's all about the teasing, not about the pleasing."
In other words, there is nothing wrong will dressing in more 'revealing' clothes, such as a V neck or such, as long as you don't leave a whorish life style. Obviously around children and similar crowds you should be more conservative in your dress, but how you dress is a way of displaying who you are. I mean, my Youth pastor wears short-shorts and a V neck shirt. Is there anything wrong with that? God would not want us to change who we are, just so we 'appear' to be more Christian. It is between ourselves and God, no one else.
Exactly right. Which is precisely why you don't want to dress like a wh***. (your word, not mine)
I would hope women especially would be more careful when approaching the Blessed Sacrament. It's not about you or your needs but about honoring God.
Read Genesis 3:21
"And the LORD God made clothing from animal skins for Adam and his wife." (NLT)
Essentially, God was the first fashion designer. I wonder what those first articles of clothing looked like. I am certain they were not designed to excite the sinful desires of the flesh - which is what all revealing clothes do.
http://bible.cc/genesis/3-21.htm
No one could run with the heeless shoes they flood the market with or the sky high heels that women wear to look what? Taller? Why?
Modesty has been on the hit list since the 60's. It has been down hill ever since and nothing but destruction has followed in it's wake
Since the issue of modesty is so subjective and a "non-essential" in regard to our faith, then it's best to remain quiet. Considering that the Magisterium has not set up definitive guidelines on dress for our times, keep in mind that articles like these are mostly based on someone's opinion.
Rather than attract people to the faith by our modest attire (which I'm actually all for) shouldn't we focus rather on what Jesus focused on, i.e. love? Oh, but that hurts much more. Fixing ourselves is painful. Let's take the easier road by focusing on modesty instead so we can start pointing fingers at everyone else.
"What's wrong with the world? You and Me." Mother Teresa
What a splendid place to begin!
Keep up the good work.
I applaud the sentiment of this article, but I have to ask: If it's wrong for men and women to BOTH wear jeans, shorts, etc., because they are wearing the same "garb," what about during Jesus' time, when men and woman essentially wore the same style clothing (i.e. long, flowing robes) and similar hair lengths? It seems a bit inconsistent to me to say one example is completely wrong, but the other was appropriately acceptable.
especially have trouble understanding how
men & women alike can attend Mass wearing
cut off shorts, tank tops and flip-flops,
and receive Holy Communion at the altar.
The liberal mindset is the root of most
bad behavior in today's world-the idea that there really is no such thing as inappropriate behavior, anything goes so
long as one is free to "do his own thing."
MTV and fashions influence teens to wear nasty clothes.
Remember: Before her death, Jacinta revealed some little-known statements made by Our Lady of Fatima:
#17. FASHIONS: "Certain fashions will be introduced that will offend Our Lord very much."
(Lucia Speaks the message of Fatima little book)It costs .50.
God bless you.
It isn't always WHAT we wear.. but HOW we wear it that makes a difference, although too short, too tight..too low cut always screams for the wrong attention.
I would not like to have my freedom of choice taken away. But I think that some people need to consider what their clothing says to others. Because it says a LOT.
Muslims and polygamist wives dress very modestly.. but that also says something not good about them. Think about it.
Do I like a veil for church..? Yes, I do. I think they are graceful and attractive. Do I wear one? Yes, I do. I have two. Ones short.. one long. Both Spanish lace. Women who are immodest are advertising. And everyone knows what they are advertising...
I am most offended when I am at church......even men come in looking like they are going to the beach or a party. I wonder why our Priest do not speak about this to our parishioners...... I hope my example of dress especially when I go to church and adoration will help others see and think about their way of dress. We have lost so much dignity in so many
ways...especially the way we dress.
wrong with them? It really boggles my mind. When I caught my eldest kid wearing jeans to mass, I asked him if would go for a job interview like that. He emphatically said no! So I responded, "God is more important, so why do you want to go to mass in jeans?" He thought about it, changed his clothes, and I thank God everyday for it.
I am certainly dismayed by the odd
and strange appearances people are
prostrating. i am guilty of some. For
years i have enjoyed wearing long hair
and sometimes into a tail for appropriate reasons.
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